Dia Dhuit, Week 15

Unexplained second trimester bleeding.

There is not much information out there to learn about why this happens, which is why it’s left as “unexplained”. It speaks a great deal as to how many gaps there still are in the medical field in Women’s Health and when something goes on in pregnancy that defies explanation, doctors are left shrugging their shoulders.

Thursday I awoke feeling normal, had a little breakfast, and when I went to use the bathroom noticed some blood on the wipe that was red enough and of a quantity to be concerning. This was more than spotting, and had I not known for sure I was pregnant I would think I was starting a regular period. I told my husband we needed to head to the ER to get this checked out. We were out of town visiting his Dad, so we wound up going to same the hospital my FIL works at. Luckily there was no wait because as we walked from the car to emergency, blood started soaking through my pants and running down my legs. It’s a bit embarrassing to tell the triage nurse you can’t sit while they go through your admission paperwork because you’re going to stain their chair.

Waiting for an ultrasound to find out if there’s a living baby still growing. Will I see a heartbeat or a motionless outline? Surrogacy is an exercise in ‘hurry up and wait’. The time between having goopy gel applied to your abdomen and an image appearing on the screen is the longest, most excruciating wait of all.

There is an active, wiggling, heart-beating baby free floating without a care in the world! Ok, do we have a placenta–that vital, temporary organ of connection–intact? It’s there and whole as well.

So why bleed? What function is taking place in the body causing this to happen? It defies medical explanation when all the other possibilities are ruled out. The doctors send you home saying, “we can’t say for sure why you’re bleeding. You may be starting to miscarry, you may not be. 50% of women go on to have a successful pregnancy after experiencing a bleed.” What to give to be in the lucky half?

Thursday night I continued bleeding soaking about three pads and passing a couple gnarly sized clots about the size of my thumb. I thought for sure this pregnancy was lost. I kept waiting for the cramps to start. Will this be a quick process or take a week? By the time you reach the second trimester, the risk of miscarrying drops to 2%. That may seem like a low number, but keep in mind that is 1 out of every 50 pregnancies. You or someone you know has miscarried late in the game.

The fact that the bleeding has turned into spotting and the blood is getting more brownish indicates a turn in the right direction. Also, still no cramps or feeling like there are contractions. I’ll feel much better once I go 24 hours no spotting, but from the pretty much the only thing I could find on the Internet about other women who experience this, some women keep bleeding periodically and still go on to deliver a healthy baby!  This was the only site I could find with other ladies sharing their experiences: http://www.steadyhealth.com/topics/unexplained-bleeding-during-2nd-trimester

The bleeding remains a mystery,  but it seems like it’s not all that uncommon as the doctors would have you believe! And unexplained second trimester bleeding doesn’t always end in miscarriage. It really makes me rethink my opinion on those “I didn’t know I was pregnant!” TV shows like, there is NO way you can not know you’re pregnant. But after this…I’m not so sure! If my cycles were irregular and I started bleeding out of the blue like this…if there wasn’t a catheter inserted up my Hoo-ha with one viable embryo by an IVF doctor 13 weeks ago…I don’t know, I may not have known I was pregnant either.

Keep your fingers crossed and say a little prayer this was a one-time scare. I think we can use some Irish luck for the next 25 weeks.


yo! I’m okay, things are good in here. Relax, lady.


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